Facing the Reality of Undergoing a Transgender Surgery

After consulting with a gender reassignment surgeon, you need to face the reality of the imminent surgery. Being a transgender who has faced the surgery and its effects, here are my suggestions on how you need to prepare yourself for the surgery.

You need to decide if you are doing the right thing. You need to know if the decision you have taken is wise and helpful all through your life. With the surgery, you could be moving towards the next major phase of the gender reassignment path. You need to ask yourself several times if this is what you want to do. You should make sure you do not regret turning into a transsexual or undergoing hormone therapy. Notably, there are people who live their life in their desired gender by pursuing surgery. If you have decided to undergo the gender reassignment surgery, here some things that you should be prepared to face.

You should decide who you live with. There are not restrictions for a transsexual person to live anywhere they want, but you should be prepared as people around you feel you are an exception. So, housing might become an issue as you decide to undergo gender reassignment. In fact, many trans friends have struggled facing ab
usive flatmates and securing a place that might be comfortable could be difficult. Also, you need to consider the after effects of the surgery. You will have to take weeks or even months of rest without work. Analyze if it is possible as each one’s work is different and your annual leave matters a lot.

Keep in mind that right after consulting your gender reassignment surgeon, you will not get any confirmation on the date of the surgery. It can even be scheduled in six months’ time. In the meantime, talk to your surgeon and clarify all the doubts that you have regarding the surgery or it’s after effects. You might get frustrated with waiting for so long making you anxious and worried as the surgery will have an effect on your life plans. Be prepared to know how you will handle the effects of the surgery though it might seem daunting.

Once you are prepared to face the surgery, you will be given a documentation related to the operation. You will be instructed how to prepare yourself for the pre-admission appointment. Sometimes, you might be asked to stay in the hospital for a week or so. All you need to keep in mind is you do not choose the transgender lifestyle. You need to choose how you will fit into the society, play the role that suits your chromosomes, find a loving relationship with people who do not abuse you and live a great life.

Before you face all this, you need to make sure you approach a qualified, experienced and open-minded surgeon specialized in the area of transgender health care. This segment of medicine is tough as it requires the surgeon to understand the unique issues in a transgender’s body. Also, apart from a surgeon, you need to consult a physician, endocrinologist, therapists and others based on your health and requirement. You need surgery and appropriate surgical care as well.

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Transgender Surgery – Recovery from the Surgery


After thinking a lot, I went under the knife to get the sex reassignment surgery done and recover at home with my parents. Though the recovery might range from weeks to months, the pain gradually fades away giving way to the pleasure of getting what I desired.

Eventually, like any other person, one might get worried about undergoing the gender reassignment surgery. Also, one might get worried thinking of its aftermath. The looks after the surgery, the period of recovery, the way others look at you, everything will be surrounding you. The same happened to me. I could not feel glad or relieved. I was suggested to take a fortnight of full time care that was provided by my parents. I took rest, relaxed and enjoyed home cooked food.

Basically, the sex reassignment surgery involves the altering of the person’s body type by changing the physical attributes as per the person’s desire. So, there are chances for the person to develop infections in the private parts where the surgery has taken place. I too developed a vaginal infection and suffered from the pain and got a new medication to treat the same.

The new list of medication is sure to make your energy levels low as you would already be facing low energy levels due to the surgery. The painkillers are sure to take a toll on your body that is striving to heal. I spent almost hours in bed all through the day having a very little sleep at night due to the pills and pain. I chose to stop the antibiotics that slowed by recovery, but I realized that it was steady.

I experienced limited movement as lying down is far less hurting than sitting. I was encouraged to go out for a walk, but I could hardly reach the road’s end as sharp pains were experienced at the nerve endings that were reconnected. At the affected area, I get a throbbing ache and unbearable pushing sensations that stayed for almost weeks. However, the recovery period was quite boring for me.

Talking about the recovery time, it is not only a painful time physically but also a strange time mentally. The discomfort and discharge that take place will stop you from developing a positive relationship with your altered body. You will get the constant urge to stay active, but your inability to even walk for a few meters will make you feel frustrated.

Gradually, the things were improving, and I went on a tour with my friend. This was three and a half weeks after the gender reassignment surgery. I started familiarizing with my new changed body and stepped up my activity by meeting my friends in cafes and testing my pain barrier by going out to places. Slowly, as I enjoyed my new body, the pain started fading away, and I started enjoying things that were happening to me.

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